General viewpoint of young Muslim girls about men

"All men are trash" 

 Have you ever come across this phrase in your life?😬

No?

Thank Allah you haven't😥

Coming across individuals who utter these types of phrases can give you a vague idea of how their minds work and how much they respect others in general

And my oh my, I don't know about you but I don't want to turn these individuals into acquaintances let alone friends

So imagine my bewilderment when I first heard it from a good friend of mine 😨

Doesn't she fear Allah the Creator of men and women?

Allah the Almighty created Adam peace be upon him before  Hawwa so when you call all men "trash" you are referring to the source of creation as trash

Okay even if you meant the men of this generation, then what about your dad and your own brother who share the same blood as you 😱

As natural as anyone else would, I spoke to her about it and  disagreed with her politely

She was defiant and stood her ground so I made a small dua for her in my mind and let it slide

Allah says that He honoured the children of Adam peace be upon him

{ ۞ وَلَقَدۡ كَرَّمۡنَا بَنِیۤ ءَادَمَ وَحَمَلۡنَـٰهُمۡ فِی ٱلۡبَرِّ وَٱلۡبَحۡرِ وَرَزَقۡنَـٰهُم مِّنَ ٱلطَّیِّبَـٰتِ وَفَضَّلۡنَـٰهُمۡ عَلَىٰ كَثِیرࣲ مِّمَّنۡ خَلَقۡنَا تَفۡضِیلࣰا }

And indeed We have honoured the Children of Adam, and We have carried them on land and sea, and have provided them with At-Taiyibat (lawful good things), and have preferred them above many of those whom We have created with a marked preference.

[Surah Al-Isrâ’: 70]

Allah says

{ یَـٰۤأَیُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱتَّقُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِی خَلَقَكُم مِّن نَّفۡسࣲ وَ ٰ⁠حِدَةࣲ وَخَلَقَ مِنۡهَا زَوۡجَهَا وَبَثَّ مِنۡهُمَا رِجَالࣰا كَثِیرࣰا وَنِسَاۤءࣰۚ وَٱتَّقُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ ٱلَّذِی تَسَاۤءَلُونَ بِهِۦ وَٱلۡأَرۡحَامَۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَیۡكُمۡ رَقِیبࣰا }

O mankind! Be dutiful to your Lord, Who created you from a single person (Adam), and from him (Adam) He created his wife [Hawwa (Eve)], and from them both He created many men and women and fear Allah through Whom you demand your mutual (rights), and (do not cut the relations of) the wombs (kinship). Surely, Allah is Ever an All-Watcher over you.

[Surah An-Nisâ': 1]

As you all already know Allah created Hawwa peace be upon her from the ribs of Adam peace be upon him

Narrated Abu Huraira:

Allah's Apostle said, "Treat women nicely, for a woman is created from a rib, and the most curved portion of the rib is its upper portion, so, if you should try to straighten it, it will break, but if you leave it as it is, it will remain crooked. So treat women nicely."

حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو كُرَيْبٍ، وَمُوسَى بْنُ حِزَامٍ، قَالاَ حَدَّثَنَا حُسَيْنُ بْنُ عَلِيٍّ، عَنْ زَائِدَةَ، عَنْ مَيْسَرَةَ الأَشْجَعِيِّ، عَنْ أَبِي حَازِمٍ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ـ رضى الله عنه ـ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ "‏ اسْتَوْصُوا بِالنِّسَاءِ، فَإِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ خُلِقَتْ مِنْ ضِلَعٍ، وَإِنَّ أَعْوَجَ شَىْءٍ فِي الضِّلَعِ أَعْلاَهُ، فَإِنْ ذَهَبْتَ تُقِيمُهُ كَسَرْتَهُ، وَإِنْ تَرَكْتَهُ لَمْ يَزَلْ أَعْوَجَ، فَاسْتَوْصُوا بِالنِّسَاءِ ‏"‏‏.‏

So imagine insulting your own origin 

After all this talk, I want to remind you girls that we are Muslims and our men are noble 

They do everything in their power to provide for us and safeguard our dignity😌

It's when social media spreads these kinds of ideologies that 'all men are trash' that girls of young age (who are not taught by their parents or do not see live examples of goodness from their fathers or brothers) start believing and some even go to the extent of hating on them and badmouthing them to their friends

For quite some years now there's been a thing called feminism where they proclaim that men are equal to women and either should be able to do what the other can

Dear sisters, don't let your worth decrease by comparison. Islam honored the status of women and gave them a special high ranking.

Allah asks the men of faith to treat us womenfolk carefully for we are precious in Allah's sight

Our men:-

Tire themselves day and night to keep us happy😊

Bring us what we ask without displaying annoyance

Support us through weak times💪

Go out of their way to show us their gratitude for the things we do for them 

Pour love on us continuously💖

Be patient with us during mood swings and time of the month😉

Laugh with us instead of against 😁

In summary, they really do care about us😍

After all this ( and I'm sure there are many more) shouldn't we at least be grateful to them?

Sure we too do a lot as daughters, wives and mothers (and grandmothers- let's not forget the old folk 😄)

Let's be optimistic about the world because this world really doesn't deserve our sorrow or pessimism 

The little time that each of us has on Earth (دار فانية) is precious so let's make it worthwhile with good thoughts and let's think the best about our men 😀

Honestly speaking we can't do in a world free of men 😎

Lastly, let the thought not slip your mind that the greatest of all humans was a man, the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him💓

May Allah give us all a sound understanding of His religion and make us steadfast and good mannered

May He give us appreciation towards our men and help us support them in our own way